Short story: Boys meets girl. They fall head over heels in love and have the perfect relationship for months and maybe even years. There’s so much love and affection between them it makes you think, what could possibly go wrong? But something does go wrong and the relationships ends, badly.
If you can relate to this story and you think you’ve hit rock bottom because of a failed relationship, cheer up, help is here!
A failed relationship can leave you feeling lost and hopeless. You think you’ve lost your soul mate and you fear you will never find another love like that. Wipe your tears, dear friend, because as Keri Hilson rightly said, “sometimes love comes around and it knocks you down, just get back up when it knocks you down”.
Heartbreaks can be life shattering, we have been through quite a number and it wasn’t easy getting through them and finding love again so here’s a little help: 4 ways to conquer a heartbreak like a boss!
1. Fighting the pain and hurt you feel will only make it worse. When you’re going through a heartbreak, you need to embrace how you feel. You need to let out your emotions. Cry if and when you need to and trust me, it helps! Holding back your emotions will make them last longer. Buy a lot of tissues, lock your door, shut the windows, crank up the music and have a good, long cry.
2. The hard part of having a heartbreak is forgiveness. If you can let go of the hurt you feel it will do you a great deal. Now this is not about the person involved, this is about you. Holding a grudge is a burden that you need to get rid of so you need to forgive, don’t let your anger control your emotions and you will realize that the moment you forgive that person you find it easier to let go.
3. It’s best to do what you love to do at this period. Except if it’s being alone, in that case, do the opposite. You can also try new things like learn how to play the violin or attend cooking classes, join a hiking team or a book club. Get up and get out there. Spend more time with friends and family. Spending time with other people will help you realize how much others care about you and it helps you heal faster.
4. You will definitely find love again but only if you believe so. You need to be open minded to the possibility but try not to compare every body you meet to your ex. Let go of your past and think of a better future. There’s always someone better out there for you.