A good relationship comes from a deep understanding of each other. A willingness to accept the flaws and perfections of an individual. In a good relationship there is a great amount of trust which is built through friendship. You always know that the other person has your back and is routing for you. Relationships can be found anywhere but when found is carried on for very many years and sometimes for life. When a relationship occurs between a guy and girl, they may decide to come together under the contract of marriage. When this occurs, and the initial friendship continues, then the marriage can be termed to be good but then it appears lots of people start looking to meet a stranger so that they can get married first and make friends after rather than make friends first and then consider getting married.
A good relationship may not necessarily lead to a good marriage especially when you are settling (managing). You should not settle when it comes to relationships because you get married and realize your tolerance level drops from 100-0 so fast. What then?
One of the major reasons why relationships and marriages are failing is the fact we put too much expectations on the other person. If you define Love as a commitment to meeting the needs of another person without having any expectations, you get disappointed in others when they fail to meet our expectations in relationships. Never marry a person on the basis of what to get because Love never gives room to receive but constant and continuous giving. Whatever has expectation also has conditions and conditions if not met brings disappointment.
A relationship is good when it can be fixed. A good relationship might not lead to marriage. It’s a decision by both parties. When both ends perceive it good then marriage might be its end product. Now relationships are easily fixed outside marriage for one reason or the other and its shocking to find out that during marriage the level of endurance and patience wears out easily depending on the parties involved.
A good relationship ought to beget good marriage but the human part that’s vulnerable to change sets in and because marriage most times is a reality check you often wonder why the relationship used to be good. You find out in life that as long as there are two sides to a coin; it’s either this or that and as humans we pick or choose one consciously or unconsciously.
You should know that a good relationship is what adds value to you and brings out the best in you and everyone can see and feel it in and all around you both, beyond material. Basically when the two heads and hearts are in sync and you who is in the relationship can draw strength from that relationship even in your lowest moment.
As much as we all want love it may not happen for everyone at the time they want so there’s no need to rush into it especially when you’re rushing into a toxic one. Focus on self-development, spend time growing your mind, spirituality, money, friends and family and when love comes it becomes a bonus.
I’ll end this by saying a good marriage is doable but it depends on the people involved. Are you willing to go the extra mile to make it work?