Marriage is a blissful thing but how much are you willing to do to get on with it. With over 250 ethnic groups in Nigeria, you should know that there are different marriage rites. The good, the bad and the ugly.
Some tribes have the most outrageous marriage rites and to tell you the truth some are actually unnecessary but if you want to get married you have to do it.
Here a list of some of these marriage rites
Fulani Marriage rite : Sharo and Kowgal
Sharo is the flogging of the potential groom before the actual marriage. The men usually have their arms akimbo and hold a stick while they dance to drumbeats with chants and incantations. This is done because most nomadic Fulanis are trained as warriors hence they believe the ability to withstand pain and torture are a sign of their strength and courage which are needed in their marriage. The ceremony is usually witnessed by so many people including tribes from other regions and may stretch for several days after this then the Kowgal which is the most important part in the Fulani marriage rites. At this stage the groom brings his dowry which is usually in form of herds of cattle; this has to be done before the wife can move into his house. The dowry passes from the bride’s father to the bride while the bride’s price which consist of gift items are given directly to the bride.
The Virginity Test
In the past, keeping your virginity for their future husband was a big deal. A girl who lost her virginity before marriage would be seen as an outcast in the community (even if she was raped). If a girl eventually got married, she would sleep with her husband while the family members stood outside the hut awaiting the husband to emerge with a blood-stained cloth in his hand or the in-laws would wait till morning and check the bed for blood stains. That would be the proof that she got married with her virginity intact. This rite was practiced more by the Igbo people.
Respect is very important among the Yoruba people. No matter who you are you have to prostrate before your in-laws as a sign of respect. Usually the groom and his friends prostrate and after that prayers are said to bless the union.