What does friendship mean to you, is it just having someone to talk to, go out with and gossip or is it way deeper than that? Over the years, I have come to realize that friendship is so much more than having a relationship with someone. Friendship is making sacrifices for someone you care about, being selfless toward the person knowing fully well that they will always be there for you when you need them too and you can only be a true friend if you understand this fully.
Friendship goes beyond having a special bond with someone, we have special bonds with co-workers and class mates too but they do not qualify as friends. If you are able to transfer good qualities from your friend(s) and also gain positively from them then your friendship is a good one.
Some of the signs of being a bad friend are:
1.You only spend time with them when you need something.
2. When you have a misunderstanding you blame them for everything.
3. You put you feelings first before theirs never thinking about how they may feel.
4.You never stick to your word (jobbing).
5.You never listen when they have problems. It’s always about you.
To be a true friend, there are certain qualities you should have. Here’s a list:
You need to pay more attention to your friend and know when they are in a bad mood or situation. From the way they respond to you or talk to you, if you know your friend well enough you’ll notice there’s a problem.
2. Know your limits
In every friendship, you should know when to draw the line.. Know when to be goofy and when to be serious, this shows how much you understand your friend. There are times to be messing around, but it gets tiring for others if you don’t know how or when to turn it off.
You have to be there at all times for your friend and don’t give up on them in their darkest hour because that is when they need you the most. Go the extra mile for them and see how you can help them get back on their feet.
Being a good listener is a hard thing to do but you can learn. Show concern and listen, not everything is about you. Your friend may be going through what is worse than your situation but you never listen so you’ll never find out. Listen and be interested in what they have to say.
5. Positive vibes only
Influence your friends positively not because you have to but because your role as a true friend is to see your friend become a better person. Enrich their lives and give value. Help them grow in all aspects of their lives.
What other ways can you be a true friend? Share with us